What will they say about you?
About this time six years ago a large group of family and friends gathered to celebrate my father's birthday. The post below captures some of the event and what I had the honor of sharing.
Earlier this year, my family celebrated my father’s eightieth birthday. It was a fun celebration with friends and family.
By no means was this a small gathering. Over a hundred people attended the party. I teased him that I was glad my mom didn’t send a Facebook invitation to all his friends because he now has close to fifteen hundred.
As part of the program, some of my dad’s friends and family members were asked to stand and say a few words. Some spoke of his competitive spirit on the golf course, others of his passion for helping students succeed.
Even others talked about my father’s heart for God and teaching the Bible. His grandchildren shared some of the memories he helped them make. And my sister and I spoke of his love and witness, his willingness to follow God no matter where he was called.
A few hours after the party, we were all sitting in my parent’s home, remembering the events of the day. My dad began to thank us for the party. He said he felt honored that all those people came and said so many good things about him. He said, “I feel like I got to witness my own funeral.”
It is usually at a person’s funeral where all the nice things are said. The only problem, my dad noted, is that the person doesn’t get to hear it.
A few days later, an article appeared in our local paper, saying that “it is only when people retire or move on to another job” that we throw a party for them in the workplace. Only then do we say all the nice things and celebrate who they are and what they’ve accomplished.
But why do we wait until our bosses, co-workers, and team members move on to say nice things about them? Shame on us. We should start eulogizing those who mean the most to us before they leave us.
I don’t want to one day hear myself saying about my team, “I wish I had told them how great they were.” I want them to know how much they matter to me now:
- I want to celebrate my team. They deserve it.
- I want to tell my boss what a great job he is doing. He needs the encouragement.
- I want to recognize success across my organization. It builds morale.
Speak up. Celebrate the people around you. It is the right thing for a leader to do. It is the right thing for anyone to do. Dad, I love you and am so thankful for the Christ-like example you displayed for me.